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'No forgiveness' as Pakistan hangs school massacre convicts

Pakistan Wednesday executed four men linked to a Taliban massacre in which more than 130 schoolchildren were killed, with parents of victims saying the convicts deserved "no forgiveness" as the anniversary of the attack approached.

The executions, carried out by hanging Wednesday morning at a prison in the city of Kohat, officials said, were the first in connection with the December 16 attack on an army-run school in the northwestern city of Peshawar.

Survivors of the assault, in which the majority of the more than 150 victims were children, said they were "happy" to hear of the executions, with one father saying the hangings should have been carried out in public squares rather than behind prison doors.

A Kohat police official named the militants as Maulvi Abdus Salam, Hazrat Ali, Mujeebur Rehman and Sabeel, alias Yahya.

The army on Monday issued a so-called black warrant confirming the executions were imminent. What role they played in the massacre has not been confirmed.

The gunmen who carried out the massacre were all reported killed by security forces during the attack.

The attack was Pakistan's deadliest, and shocked and outraged a country already scarred by nearly a decade of extremism.

"The rest should be caught too, no one should be spared," survivor Waheed Anjum, 18, said.

Anjum, who was 17 at the time of the attack, was struck by three bullets, one in each arm and one in his chest.

"They shouldn't have been hanged from prisons, they should have been hanged from squares," his father Momin Khan Khattak added.

"There is no forgiveness in our hearts after what they did to our children."

Other parents said the executions would act as a deterrent against future extremist attacks.

"The parents of the schoolchildren have long been demanding that the terrorists be severely punished, and today we are satisfied our demands have been met," Ajoon Khan, who lost his only son in the attack, told AFP.

"Had the government hanged all the terrorists before, the Peshawar school attack would never have happened," he said, adding that he hoped others involved in the massacre would meet the same fate.

"The hangings won't bring back my son, but now other people's sons will be kept safer," said father Tufail Ahmed Khan, who lost one son in the attack while another was wounded.

- "No mercy" -

The attack prompted a nation-wide crackdown on extremism, with the establishment of military courts and the resumption of capital punishment after a six-year moratorium.

In August, after a trial that took place behind closed doors, the army announced that six militants linked to the assault would be executed, while a seventh was handed a life sentence.

The four executed Wednesday were the first to be hanged after convictions in military courts.

Earlier this month Prime Minister Nawaz Sharif directed the president to reject their appeals against the sentences, saying they deserved "no mercy".

An official at the prison said the men who were hanged on Wednesday had held a final meeting with their families on Tuesday night, and a police official said their bodies would be handed over to relatives.

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Is emotional infidelity as bad as sexual infidelity?

Men are jealous over emotions while women are over sex. We spoke to some Men and women and found some interesting viewpoint

Mrinalini Sharma

It is true that when it comes to emotional infidelity it is more heart breaking for a woman than for a man. That's probably because from a woman's point of view it is about maintaining a relationship; she will do all it takes to keep things going on. But no one likes to get cheated on, be it a man or a woman. Men cannot forgive sexual infidelity because their ego gets crushed. They don't consider emotional attachment to another man as infidelity.

Maybe because that's how it's meant to be. However, the level of jealousy depends on the security that a relationship holds. I don't know about other women, but I will never forgive or forget emotional or physical infidelity from the man that I trust; because if the pillar that holds a relationship together breaks, it can never be the same. If he respects the relationship, he will respect her; then it holds no question or room for infidelity. And why put your self-respect aside?

Kim Sharma

I guess for a woman it is more important to be emotionally attached to a man and if she doesn't get that it's disappointing. I feel that mutual understanding between two people happens only when they are on the same level, emotionally. Hence, when a man falls back on another woman for emotional support the girl feels that the basis of their relationship, the emotional attachment is lost. And once that's lost there is nothing left to lose. Obviously that does not mean that if he cheats on her and sleeps with another woman, she will be ok with that! Definitely not! Of course there are those who like to live in denial but I am definitely not one of them. Commit only if you can handle the commitment in the long run. If two people are in a relationship which is based on trust and mutual understanding, there is very little scope for jealousy to creep in. Point being, infidelity emotional or sexual is only an outcome of lack of trust and understanding.

Pooja Bedi

I think 'infidelity' as a word is not such a good word at all. Any kind of infidelity is always wrong no matter what the circumstances. Whether it is sexual or emotion infidelity of any kind it should definitely not be forgiven at all. It is a complete breakdown of trust. When you are unfaithful to your partner you are actually showing disrespect to him/her.

Tanushree Dutta

This happens I guess because women tend to think more emotionally while men have a rational approach to love and relationship, so the physical and the obvious are a botheration while subtle things like emotional infidelity bother women. Though I do believe that there are no rules and that people behave according to their own personalities.

Kashmera Shah

Both emotional as well as sexual infidelity is wrong. I would not forgive either! Why are you in a relationship at all if you can be faithful to your partner? I don't think I can forgive a one-night stand or sexual infidelity, even though I know that my man is not emotionally attached to the other woman. Am I allowed a one-night stand? He shouldn't be either!

Pracheen Chauhan

Men and women are made differently. Men and women also think differently. Infidelity be it emotional or sexual is unacceptable. If I know that my partner has cheated I will not accept it. I will get visuals/flashes of her being with other man and that will stress me out. Men are sexually possessive. Even if the woman is just touched in a wrong way by another man, the partner will get provoked enough to fight. This reaction of men is very common. For women it may be in their psyche that men are not a loyal species and may be polygamous. Men sleeping around with women is acceptable but a guy will never accept a women who tells that she had boyfriends and she slept around. For Indian men a partner's sacred image is overpowering. Many men ironically still want virgin partners. Despite metro life and western influence, the psyche of men hasn't changed. There is an old saying that if a man claims he slept with x number of woman divide that by three and if a woman says that she has slept with two guys then multiply it by three.

Ranvir Shorey I don't agree to this that men get jealous over sexual infidelity and only women feel jealous of emotional infidelity. I think men can be as jealous of emotional infidelity just like women do, if not more... Hussain I think probably few years back it would be apt to say such things but in today's time it is more individualistic. It depends on how each individual thinks. It also depends on what kind of relationship the man and woman share and what the relationship means to them. One cannot generalize such things and it is absolutely not true in today's time. Today you find men who can not handle both types of infidelities and the same goes with women as well. So, such things don't apply now, not in metros especially. It all comes down to what hurts someone more.

Avinash Wadhavan

Well! I think answer to this question lies with the nature of human species. Male species can indulge in sexual activity without getting emotionally involved (they may not even remember the girl's name the next day) whereas females can't have sex without emotional involvement and may forgive her man's one night stand indulgence but she can't digest her man getting emotionally intimate to a woman (even if he had no sex with her) because she knows this relationship can go far whereas man fails to accept sexual fidelity because he knows that now his woman is emotionally attached to the other man so he withdraws from the relationship. Men have their own nature and women have their own nature. It also depends on one's circumstances and thought processes and of course personal experiences which makes one behave in a particular way and at different times reactions can be different.

Rahul Dev

By and large men are more jealous about sexual infidelity than they are about emotional infidelity and women are the opposite, though there are always exceptions to the rule.

When you are jealous, a line of communication is going on with your spouse or lover that is hidden from you and this mystery causes the pain. Hidden communication lines or mysteries make you think of questions like: "Will she find someone she likes better than me?", "Is he having an affair?", "Is she going to leave me?"' "Does he think I am unattractive?"

When you are jealous, the mystery makes you assume the worst. "Maybe he'll fall in love with his cute receptionist and leave me.". "She's going to lunch with her old boyfriend because she's still attracted to him.", "He'll come home and tell me he wants a divorce."

Jealousy comes from insecurity within yourself. Of course there is a conspicuous subset of men who like most women find emotional betrayal more distressing than sexual infidelity. I feel couples with a dismissive attachment style, who prize their autonomy in relationships over commitment, can be more upset about sexual infidelity than emotional infidelity whereas those securely attached in relationships, including securely attached men are more likely to find emotional betrayal more upsetting.

Expert speak

Seema Hingorrany, Clinical Psychologist says :

Women are more emotionally jealous over sex and do get upset with emotional infidelity as they want a committed relationship, also which is a long-term affair. They need partners who are committed to raising a family. Also, I have seen in my practice that women tend to get more emotional in a relationship, than men. The reason can be that, throughout evolution, women have had to deal with a number of internal stressors, such as childbirth, that men haven't had to experience. Women also place more value on emotional connection as a spark of sexual desire.

The majority of adult men under 60, think about sex at least once a day, reports a study. Only about one-quarter of women report this level of frequency. As men and women age, each fantasize less, but men still fantasize about twice as often. Women want to talk first, connect first, then have sex. For men, sex is the connection. Sex is the language men use to express their loving side. This can also be a reason why they are jealous over sexual infidelity. Research also indicates that men and women do in fact have different structures and wiring in the brain, and men and women may also use their brains differently. In some cases, this may explain some of the stereotypes.

In 2001, researchers from Harvard found that certain parts of the brain were differently sized in males and females. The study found that parts of the limbic cortex, responsible for regulating emotions, were larger in women. In men, the parietal cortex, which is involved in space perception, and the amygdala, which regulates sexual and social behaviour, was larger.

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Sexiest Arab pop star says 'I do'

BEIRUT: Lebanese singer Haifa Wehbe, the biggest sex symbol in the Arabic pop scene, was set to celebrate her wedding at a star-studded bash on Friday, a day after a hush-hush private ceremony.

The voluptuous 35-year-old brunette model-turned-singer, known for her revealing outfits, said I do at a private wedding service in Beirut on Thursday, her agent said.

Al-Akhbar newspaper identified the lucky man who won Haifa's heart as Egyptian entrepreneur Ahmad Abu Husheima, one year her junior.

Guests at Friday's party are due to include American glamor model Carmen Electra, who gained fame by appearing in Playboy magazine, and singer Anastasia, the newspaper said.

Haifa started a trend across the Arab world in 2002 with her long dark hair and sultry looks and does not shy away from sexually suggestive songs that are often the center of controversy and blatant outrage.

The popstar is a self-professed fan of Hassan Nasrallah, the leader of the Shiite militant group Hezbollah which fought a deadly 34-day war with Israel in July 2006 that killed some 1,200 Lebanese and 160 Israeli troops.

I admire his wisdom, his charisma, Haifa said in a Lebanese television interview after the war, adding that her admiration for Nasrallah grew after the war.

Haifa fled Lebanon to Egypt during the conflict but refused to sing in public until peace was restored in her home country.

Some more conservative Arab countries are highly critical of Haifa, who found fame with a music video that featured her dancing in the rain in a red dress.

In April 2008, Bahrain's Islamist-dominated parliament approved a motion asking the government to ban a performance by Haifa on moral grounds - despite assurances by organizers that the superstar would dress modestly.

Nevertheless a prim Haifa dressed in a floor-length, V-neck emerald gown sang for her Bahraini fans in Manama a few days later.

Her portfolio mainly seductive love songs but she has also released children s song, including one with the English title Naughty and a track called Buss al-Wawa, or Kiss my little wound.

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